sexual rejection

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Registered: 12-22-2003
sexual rejection
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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:03pm
hi...i've been in a relationship for about 8 months or so....and within the last couple of months he is uninterested in having sex, well let me rephrase....we have sex when he wants and i can almost predict it....and this is a huge problem for me because i have a VERY HIGH sex drive. It is to the point where i am afraid to aproach him in fear of rejection...Please help
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:30pm
Sexual compatibility is as important as all the other areas of compatibility that need to match up in order for 2 people to both be happy in a long-lasting relationship (ie. be right for one another). It doesn't sound like you're sexually compatible, and short of one of you changing how you are (unlikely) one of you is bound to be unhappy in this area. And it's an important area when you're with someone for the long haul. Good luck.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 4:16am

i think you are saying that things have CHANGED.is that correct? there are reasons that sexual desire changes in a relationship. sometimes, when

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 6:53am
Try the Clashing Libidos board on ivillage. But, if you've already talked to him about your different sexual needs, and he hasn't tried to compromise or meet you halfway, or otherwise made an effort, I (and everyone else on the CL board) will advise you to get out of the relationship. Sexual compatibility issues don't just fix themselves.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 4:32pm

It sounds as though the two of you are unsuited sexually - that he has little interest and you have a greater need.