DH very petty
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DH very petty
| Wed, 12-24-2003 - 3:26pm |
Well. it's going on a year now that dh is out of a job. I have been getting freelance work, which I think he resents via some remarks he has made. We have extra income from some properties as I've said before but understandably he is confused and upset because there have been interviews but no offers. He still though does not understand that many times, you have to go after the job, as there is much competition out there. He does not seem to want to take a course or improve his skills, and has very outdated views of how the job process should go. Too long to go into here. Anyhow, to cut to the chase, he now is very petty over what we have in the fridge, all because a few days ago we had to go grocery shopping, the money I was going to bring half of it I accidentally left in my purse at home, and he had to run to the bank to take about 60 bucks out of our savings. Which we have a VERY comfortable amount in, thank you. Anyway, (LOL) we bought a 12- pack of coke, plus 6 small cokes, and he had maybe one or two (his fave drink next to iced tea, so I think that's another reason he's acting foolish because he's afraid I will drink all of his beloved cokes) and I had some, but which I SHARED with him at dinner. Well, today he sees me drinking a small can and yells, why can't those last us a few more days? We're going to go BROKE buying groceries, can't they last us? And on and on. I told him I don't want to be in a house where things are monitored, like I am paying room and board to live in my own house. Well, he gets all panicky about money and going broke over COKES, for goodness sake. What a Christmas Eve. We are supposed to go to my parents tonight, so that will be okay but I feel crappy because how dare he start in like that on me? I understand where his panic is coming from, if he said he's scared and doesn't feel he's contributing monetarily and such and such, okay, but to lay into me over cokes?I just came upstairs and am not saying a thing. Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems excessive to me. Last time he was out a job four years ago, he pulled the same thing, only over cookies. I told him now that if he wants to have a coke, HAVE ONE. It's like he is afraid to touch them because he doesn't want to spend money replacing one thing. Bottom line is this: I can understand his worry and frustration, but I think this is taking it too far.

I think you (and he) needs to realize that this isn't about cokes or cookies.
James
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