real confused

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Registered: 12-26-2003
real confused
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Fri, 12-26-2003 - 7:55pm
hello everyone :) (merry christmas)

I hope all is well. I am basically really confused, and i really need some help!

I met this guy on the net 4 years ago and we became the best mates. We have an amazing bond and we talk to each other on the phone everyday even now, i am really lucky to have him.

About a week ago i thought to myself enough is enough i gotta meet him so we did, and it was the best day of my life :) We was all over each other and he was such a gentleman walked me to my door carried my bags i couldn't believe how well we got on in real life ! I was terrified about there not being a spark!

It is now a week later and i have to say we are just as close its just that he seems to be the one scared of commitment! i don't know if i should ask him if we are together or just leave it and see how it goes? Any advice? And in regards meeting again i'm scared if i leave it up to him i'll be waiting along time! I have asked him a few times and to me he doesn't seem too enthusiastic - but i could be being paranoid. How do u know if a guy is into you, coz surely if he was scared of losing me he would of asked me out by now? Has anyone been in a situation like this before? please help any advice is much appreciated!!

Much love - Chantelle xx

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: chantelle01
Fri, 12-26-2003 - 9:12pm
To me a romantic relationship is not reality based unless you know each other in person no matter how long you've been typing and talking and to me if a man is sincerely interested in a woman and available he will ask her out in advance on a proper date. Leave the ball in his court, stop pushing for a date and tell him that you don't want more contact with him unless he is interested in a romantic relationship.