Working together, killing eachother
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Working together, killing eachother
| Fri, 12-26-2003 - 9:12pm |
i have been with my husband almost 3 years and we recently began a business together. before this, i was unhappy with my career but still felt a sense of independence and integrity about what i was doing. since my husband is, in a lot of ways, the "final say", or "my boss", we argue sometimes to the point of screaming about our approach to business and our employees. i love him dearly, but have found my relationship with him fading into work oblivion. it is nearly impossible for us to separate work from our personal life; we often go to bed talking/arguing about the business and have spent several hours a day recently drained by our opposite ways of handling issues. i feel that every time i have made a decision without consulting him first, i have somehow been bitten by it. he gets angry or tells me that i should have approached it differently, or he tells me to handle something a certain way and when it doesn't produce the results he wanted, he comes back to me and asks me why i did it that way. it's gotten to the point where i don't feel i can make decisions independently, and i am running out of the energy to fight. i have an option to oversee a separate department, which i probably will do, but to make things more complicated, i have developed very strong feelings for a co-worker and she is a woman. i have had a sexual experience with a woman in the past and have always considered myself bisexual. but this is an overwhelming feeling i have for her, and, she works closely with us both. we have frequent talks and have bonded in a way that i cannot do without. she has no idea, and she, too, has had similiar issues with a very driven husband who doesn't seem to have time for anything else in his life than work. please help. i want to work on my marriage, but i don't even know where to start.
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| Sat, 12-27-2003 - 12:17pm |
Start with marriage counseling asap. You can learn the tools to communicate at home and at work. It almost sounds like you need to start with 'job descriptions' for both of you. Did you agree that he was the *boss*?
