he cheated on me and w/ my brothers wife

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Registered: 12-28-2003
he cheated on me and w/ my brothers wife
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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 5:46pm
I am so lost right now. In the 13 years we have been together, he has cheated on me 7 times. Why can't I leave him? This last time was with my sister-in-law, twice I might add as far as I know and I am so angry, I want to kill her and him for what they have done to me and my 2 youngest girls. Plus there is a possiblity that she could be pregnant. Because atleast 3 to 4 times a year she would go to a free clinic to get checked to make sure she wasn't preganat by my brother. All this stuff is eatting me up inside. In the past 3 months since all this has started I've lost about 15 pounds. I've went from a size 7 to a size 2/3. I am a nervous wreak. I have no where to go and I can't find a place of my own cause I only make maybe 550. a month at my job and I have bills to pay too. Let me tell you this, the way I feel about my sister-in-law and my spouse right now, if murder was legal, they both would be dead right now. That is how they have made me feel. She was like a little sister to me, we were that close. When her, my brother, and thier 2 children would come in and visit, we would leave the kids with them and go do something for a few hours. Just because we haven't seen each other in forever and then after all these years, she turns around and does this. My spouse says she started it, well, why couldn't he of said no I can't do this and leave. I really need some help and alot of prayer right now or I'm not going to make it through this. Can anyone help me? PLEASE!!!!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 12-29-2003 - 8:24pm
Why can't you leave him? My guess is because you feel you are nothing without him. Or you don't want the label of being divorced.

:::My spouse says she started it, well, why couldn't he of said no I can't do this and leave.

Yeah right. Even if she started it, he's an adult and could have stopped it. He didn't want to. He's now placing blame instead of taking responsibility for his actions.

I suggest you get yourself into counseling ASAP and work on your self-esteem so you can dump this man - a man I might add that has no integrity, no honor, no loyality - he's a liar and a cheat.


Carrie