I dont know what to do?
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I dont know what to do?
| Sun, 12-28-2003 - 11:16pm |
My husband cheated on me and left me and our daughter to be with her. We filed for divorce, and all, but we still have sex together. Not all the time but once a month or so. He says he only loves me as the mother of his child, and he has some feelings left but not strong ones. I still care deeply for him, and want to do all I can to get him back. I honestly belive he has more feelings than he is telling me, or if she wasnt there he would. I dont know what to do. I want him back. I honestly dont care what people will think. I know we will both need help getting through it all, but its a chance im willing to take. I cant give up with out giving it a shot. what should i do?

Having sex with him is not the way to do it obviously. He still goes back to her. So now you want a man that cheats on his girlfriend and who doesn't love you. He even admits it.
What if he did leave her and come back to you? Would you ever trust him or live in fear that he might sleep with the other woman once a month?
'I cant give up with out giving it a shot. what should i do?'
So you have a strong desire to make it work but does he? Does he want to give it a shot? Will he go to therapy with you? Does he want to leave her or just sleep with you periodically?
What kind of a role model are you for your daughter letting yourself be treated this way?
'He says he only loves me as the mother of his child, and he has some feelings left but not strong ones'
Listen to his words, stop kidding yourself, let him go sexually and go to therapy to improve your self-esteem and figure out why you think you deserve to be treated this way.