I Need to end the jealousy

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Registered: 12-29-2003
I Need to end the jealousy
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Mon, 12-29-2003 - 1:42am
I need some good advice:

I am worried that my guy still has feelings for his ex of ten years. I tell him what I didnt like about my ex but he never can say anything that is really bad about his ex except for the fact that they did not have a healthy/faithful relationship. I found quite a few pictures of her in his bedroom/car. He and I ripped them up but I later found another one. She broke it off with him, and left him heartbroken. How can I know if he is over her and put an end to my jealousy
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:32pm
If you HONESTLY want to end your jealously...then stop acting like a baby and appreciate the fact that your man is yours exclusively. And it never hurts to let him know how much YOU appreciate him...instead of being paranoid about an EX GIRLFRIEND!

What women don't seem to understand is that MEN have memories just like you do. This doesn't mean we want to relive our past relationships. But from time to time, certain thoughts come to mind about an earlier girlfriend, spouse or even a good female friend.

Please don't expect us to WIPE ALL THOUGHTS OF OTHER WOMEN OUT OF OUR HEADS! (Women are entitled to have memories of their EX-BOYFRIENDS, right?) As long as your guy isn't cheating or taking you for granted...drop the possessive bit...NOW!

We might be your exclusive b/f...but we certainly AREN'T your pet dog!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:56pm
Of course the man will have feelings for a woman he was with for 10 years and who broke his heart. He probably always will. That doesn't mean he wants to go back to her. The fact is that she was a big part of his life for a very long time. He will probably always have a special place in his heart for her and a little wound when she broke his heart.

Forget the fact that he has kept some pictures from his past and doesn't say negative things about an ex-girlfriend - which I don't think are issues at all - is there anything about the way your boyfriend treats you that leads you to believe that he isn't in love with you? If he treats you well and the relationship is healthy, then what's the problem?