MY INSANE BOYFRIEND--HELP!!!!!

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Registered: 01-14-2004
MY INSANE BOYFRIEND--HELP!!!!!
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Fri, 02-06-2004 - 1:41pm
IS THERE ANYONE WITH ANY ADVICE ON THIS SITUATION

MY BOYFRIEND OF 3 YEARS IS DRIVING ME CRAZY, I HAVE BEEN THE BEST THING TO HIM AND I BROKE THINGS OFF WITH HIM ABOUT A MONTH AGO, SO SATURDAY HE CALLED AND MY SISTER ANSWERED THE PHONE AND MY SISTER TOLD HIM I WAS IN THE MALL AND HE SAID I'LL HOLD AND WAIT TILL SHE COME OUT, MY SISTER SAID NO CAUSE SHE'S GOING TO BE AWHILE, HE STILL WANTED TO HOLD. SO SHE HUNG UP ON HIM HE CALLED BACK AND HE'S BEGGING AND PLEADING SAYING THAT HE JUST WANTS TO SEE ME I SAID NO!!!,NOT UNTIL YOU GET YOURSELF TOGETHER ( I TOLD HIM IT WAS OVER 3 TIMES ALREADY DURING THE MONTH), SUNDAY HE CALLED AND SAID THAT HE'S NOT TRYING TO LOOSE ME OVER NOTHING PETTY, THEN SAID HE WAS WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES. SO YESTERDAY, HE ASKED ME AGAIN ARE WE TOGETHER OR NOT AND I TOLD HIM HONESTLY I WANT TO BE WITH YOU BUT I CAN'T UNTIL YOU GET YOURSELF TOGETHER, AND IT SEEMS THAT HE'S NOT UNDERSTANDING IT. IT'S NOT LIKE I'M LEADING HIM ON I'M BLUNT AND HE HAVEN'T SEEN ME IN A MONTH AND I HAVEN'T HAD SEX WITH HIM, SO WHAT'S THE PROBLEM!!! ( IKNOW I'VE BEEN A GREAT GIRLFRIEND TO HIM BUT HE MESSED IT UP BETWEEN US)
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Registered: 02-06-2004
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 1:52pm
proceed with caution, I too have had a relationship like yours, 6 months after I left him, he was still calling sending flowers, finding me everywhere, knew who I was dating, made life hell for me, then he shows up at my door, when I was in bed with my new guy, I called the police, had him charged with stalking, he was given a conditional charge, cant have any contact with me, or anyone I know for 1 year, if he breeches he goes directly yo jail, found out a month ago that he had been to my old apartment and kicked in the door, too bad that there is 2 really big nasty guys living there now.

My 2 cents:

you can see where your relationship may lead, be very careful, keep people around you all the time, keep your business to yourself. change your phone number
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 11:11am

You are doing the right thing by not giving in or letting him think that his behavior is the least bit acceptable.I'd give him time.However,if things get more serious or you start to feel threatened in any way- contact teh authorities.