RELATIONSHIP IN TROUBLE - PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 02-09-2004
RELATIONSHIP IN TROUBLE - PLEASE HELP
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 12:09pm
I am so confused. I am engaged to the greatest guy in the world and we plan on getting married on July 24, 2004. But recently we have been having some problems which have made me question whether to get married to him or not. See it all starts when he comes home from work (he works 6am-2pm and i work just as long as he does and i am not tired)all he does is take a bath and go to sleep and I never get to spend any time with him. Then we got into a heated arguement cause he was so stressed out at work (Barton Farms)(where he makes 9.45 an hour and full benefits) that he wanted to quit his job there and go work at his job where he only makes 8.50 a hour with no benefits. and I started questioning to myself :is this the way I want to live my life?? And then we have just have been arguing more lately...but there are times when he is so sweet and caring..and i just fall in love with him all over again. and i am so close to his family... i think it would destroy them if we ever broke up.

I don't know what it is if its wedding butterflies or what but I have been thinking about my first love and how it was when we were together.....cause we never argued he has a great job. i don't know please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you can also email me at:

rockygirl01@modempool.com

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 3:05pm

Well, first of all you have to decide what is important to you, an extra 40 bucks a week is certainly nice, as is the health benefits, but it seems like that comes at a cost of being close with you and tired all day.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 4:06pm
I agree with James. I'm not claiming to have the perfect relationship or anything because I know I don't, but I do know that no matter what job my boyfriend decides to quit or start up, I will always support him. He quit a GREAT job a few months after we started dating because he didn't like it, and started working for his friend's company and didn't get a check for over 3 months. Sure- it was frustrating at times and things were tight, but atleast he was happier with what he was doing. To me personally, happiness is worth a lot more than 40 buck a week. If you were that unhappy with your job, wouldn't you want your fiance to support your career change.. even if it meant taking a paycut?