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| Mon, 02-16-2004 - 4:42pm |
ok, well...
im a full time college student. upon my arrival at school this year i met a great guy. immediately we hit it off and began hanging out. over the past 7 months we got closer and closer. last month our calls were becoming more then daily but practically hourly. we were hanging out a lot and just loved being in each other's company. well a week ago we were laying in bed watching a movie, not uncommon for us. the movie went off and he hit the lights and implied he was staying over. as it got later and our conversation became more in depth, he leaned in and kissed me. he told me he had wanted to do that for the longest time and that i made him happy. he swore to me that i was this unbelievable person, the only one who has made him feel this way in a long, long time, and that he would never hurt me. well a week went by and things were great. we slept together every night, had long, romantic talks, all with him confessing these feelings for me that i never imagined a guy would have. it was all pretty much fairy tale like and i had never ever expected something so wonderful to happen to me. anyway, the past two days have been weird. he has not been himself, calling all the time, kissing me, coming over before work just to kiss me. tonight will be the first night we wont sleep together because he has to study... any other night he would study and then come to my bed...i dont understand it. he swore he would never hurt me and he acts like we are "together" awlays joking how lucky i am to have him and how he would never cheat or mess around behind his gf's back. clearly i am not his gf, but i am so much more then a random hook up. well i am so confused. he started this wonderful feeling, this spark that i cannot put out. and now i am left here wondering if maybe this was all a mistake!!! please please help me!!!
im a full time college student. upon my arrival at school this year i met a great guy. immediately we hit it off and began hanging out. over the past 7 months we got closer and closer. last month our calls were becoming more then daily but practically hourly. we were hanging out a lot and just loved being in each other's company. well a week ago we were laying in bed watching a movie, not uncommon for us. the movie went off and he hit the lights and implied he was staying over. as it got later and our conversation became more in depth, he leaned in and kissed me. he told me he had wanted to do that for the longest time and that i made him happy. he swore to me that i was this unbelievable person, the only one who has made him feel this way in a long, long time, and that he would never hurt me. well a week went by and things were great. we slept together every night, had long, romantic talks, all with him confessing these feelings for me that i never imagined a guy would have. it was all pretty much fairy tale like and i had never ever expected something so wonderful to happen to me. anyway, the past two days have been weird. he has not been himself, calling all the time, kissing me, coming over before work just to kiss me. tonight will be the first night we wont sleep together because he has to study... any other night he would study and then come to my bed...i dont understand it. he swore he would never hurt me and he acts like we are "together" awlays joking how lucky i am to have him and how he would never cheat or mess around behind his gf's back. clearly i am not his gf, but i am so much more then a random hook up. well i am so confused. he started this wonderful feeling, this spark that i cannot put out. and now i am left here wondering if maybe this was all a mistake!!! please please help me!!!

It's hard to say what he's thinking. Sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie
It sounds like this guy genuinly cares for you, which with that said, i can understand why u are feeling in the dark about things..You said that he was studying tonight, does he go to school or something where he has a test?If thats the case, he may be overwhelmed- either about that or something else, and feels withdrawn right now.
It sounds like if nothing else, whatever is going on between you guys...you at least have a solid friendship going, and should feel comfortable asking him where this is all going.
But yes, stop the intimacy. It means more to you emotionally than it does to him.
Carrie
If he sees that you are not bothered by his detachment, it may bring him closer.
Also, keep in mind, he is VERY young if you guys are in college!
You are going to meet MANY more men before settling down.
Hang in there....you can't make someone love you.
But, you can hope that you will find someone someday that does love you back just as much.......and you will.