i cheated and i don't know why

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Registered: 02-20-2004
i cheated and i don't know why
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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:43pm
My boyfriend is great, everything you can ask for in a guy. He's handsome, has a good paying job. We've been together for 2 years now and there's no more fun and passion. There's absolutely nothing wrong with him, he's almost perfect. Recently, my co workers and I went out after work for a couple of drinks. One of the guys is getting married next week and we went to celebrate. The guy whose getting married in a week and I wound up in a hotel room that night. We both enjoyed ourselves, almost too much. We're both extremely attracted to eachother, but we know that what we did was wrong. I feel guilty, but I don't regret it and neither does the soon to be groom. I want it to happen again, I think we both do. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I don't want to hurt him. (I know this will kill him) What do I do? And why don't I regret this?

Tempted and Confused

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 1:36am
Cheating and affairs are acts of total selfishness. Its all about you and what you want with no regard for anyone else or any resulting consequence. Any lines that you may spew about not wanting to hurt anyone are used to simply cover your a$$ so that you don't look too bad in front of others.

If you want to be 100% self-serving that is your choice - go for it. Just don't expect respect, honor or integrity to be returned to you. Otherwise you are living the life of - do as I say, not as I do.

If you want this other guy then at least do something non-selfish and break up with your boyfriend so that he has an opportunity to find someone that actually understands the basic concepts of respect and integrity. You've proven through your actions that you don't.

If the tables were turned would you tolerate this situation? I doubt it.

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 10:43pm
Quite simple, you don't love your boyfriend and you don't respect yourself.