What to do?

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Registered: 02-22-2004
What to do?
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Sun, 02-22-2004 - 1:45am
I am 27 years old and have been divorced for about 4 years. I have been dating "Rhonda" for 3 years. Both "Rhonda" and I have been in cheating relationships before. Well about 6 months ago I cheated on "Rhonda" and we broke up. About a month later she decided she wanted to give me another chance. We never really cleared the air about what I had done, and just a few weeks ago she decides that we are not going anywhere in the relationship, she tell me that it feels more like a friendship. So we are now broke up, but she still wants us to be able to talk. And she says that if she is asked on a date she wants to go, so if I call during a date we have to use codes such as "I'll call you back later". I want to be there for her because In my heart I know that I want to be with this woman for the rest of my life, but I just don't know how to handle her wanting to tell me about her date the night before. I don't think I'm ready to be that kind of friend to her. So how do I go about being there for her and earning her trust and and proving I can be the man she wants in her life, without being too pushy.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: lilndnboy
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 1:50pm
As long as you want more than friendship from her, being *just friends* is going to hurt you every time you speak to her. Maybe after a period of *no contact* while you heal, you might be able to go back to being her friend.

I have an article somewhere about "can't we be just friends" but I'm having trouble finding it right now.


Edited 2/22/2004 1:52:53 PM ET by itwinflame


Carrie