Need advice, please someone help

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Need advice, please someone help
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 3:19pm
Hi everyone, thanks first of all, for reading this message. I've been married to an (otherwise) loving husband for 11 years. We have not slept in the same bed for 3 years. A little over 3 years ago, our 2 year old son was in the hospital for 5 days with asthma. Upon bringing him home, it was essential to have him by me so I could easily wake up in the middle of the night, several times, to administer his treatments (nebulizer) - this is when it started. My son's treatments have become fewer and fewer (thank goodness) but my husband, a night owl, continues to sleep either on the living room or family room sofa. He stays up til 1 am or so, I like to fall asleep around 1130. I miss it though, I miss having him there and he is not understanding that. I miss reading in bed with him at night, just having the intimacy of him being beside me. I suppose our sex life has suffered, though one couldn't really tell. I'm sure we'd be more active if we slept beside each other.

Can someone offer me any advice? I've discussed this with him on a handful of occasions but to know avail. Is there anyone else out there with this problem? Thank you. Cleo