Fiance thinks i like other man

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Registered: 12-06-2003
Fiance thinks i like other man
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Sun, 02-22-2004 - 5:03pm
I told my best friend that I was having some feelings for a guy I know and that I wasn't sure what they were and what they meant. After a little while I resolved these feelings and realizied it was just a jealous issue that I was going through not that I wanted be with anyone else. But my so called friend went and told my boyfriend how I was thinking about this other guy and now he thinks I want to be with someone else other than him. Just because i was thinking to about it! It's not like I did or would have ever made a move I'm not the kind of person who cheats. If I wasn't happy in my relationship, I would leave and if I wanted this other guy I'd be with him but he doesn't see it that way. He thinks I want to have them both and says that he will always be thinking in his mind I want this other guy and will never feel the same about me again. What should I do, I don't want to lose what we have together.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 5:35pm
Well on the one hand, I can understand how your fiance is feeling. He is about to commit the rest of his life to you and then he finds out that you have feelings for another guy. I would wonder if our relationship was healthy and why you had these feelings and I would always feel strange around him.

Are you sure you are ready for marriage and that those feelings, however fleeting they were, didn't represent something bigger? Are you without a doubt ready to commit to your fiance? If so, what were those feelings about?

On the other hand, is your fiance often jealous?

And what about your best friend? Is she still?????

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 7:52pm
Your best friend isn't even a friend. Do you think your friend likes your fiance and has a hidden motive for telling boyfriend?

Talk to you bf/fiance about pre-marital counseling to help set the record straight.


Carrie