dating great guy...but he's a virgin

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Registered: 02-22-2004
dating great guy...but he's a virgin
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Sun, 02-22-2004 - 5:06pm
I have been dating this guy for about a month now and he's awesome because he is the total opposite of my ex, but in EVERY way. He really wants to take me out whenever he can, he's always there for me and over all a very nice guy. My ex was sort of like this when we first began dating but started to not care about me and it just turned ugly, but we had GREAT sex...when he treated me well and when he didn't treat me well. We both had the same experience level and we learned new things together. Now that I"m with my new b/f, I have found out that he is pretty much a virgin...well what he told me is "I"ve never done this sober before". He's a great guy, but his skills over all intimately are very inexperienced and immature. Sometimes I feel like he's a HS boy, who;s so excited for the first time to have sex and I don't know what to do about it, it creeps me out everytime. I try to only focus on the emotional part of our relationship...but for me, intimacy, whether having sex or not, is very important to me. I just don't know how to deal with dating a guy that is pretty much a virgin, when I am used to being with people who are at my own experienced level. I don't want to teach him, I feel that it is his job to know what to do or to find out. I know that sounds horrible, but I don't have the patience to teach him how to kiss, how to be intimate and ultimately have sex...that's just too much for me. If you can offer me any advice on how to deal with this situation, I would really appreciate it, b/c I don't want this to be a problem...I want to stay with this guy b/c I do care about him and he does treat me very well. And that's why I am asking what is the best way to handle the situation. Thanks
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 6:40pm

Ouch.