Cheating.... cant stop!

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Registered: 02-01-2004
Cheating.... cant stop!
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Sun, 02-22-2004 - 10:35pm
Ive had 2 different boyfriends for 3 years and i cant help but always cheat ive been with my boyfriend for a year and half and i love him i do. but i just crave attention from men and then i cant help but kiss them . Ive only slept with 3 guys during this time of being with my boyfriend but i cant break up with him b/c i do love him i know people say u cant love him if you cheat on him but i think its insecurity. if you have any advice please reply. thanks
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 3:03pm
Sure insecurity plays into cheating, so does selfishness, needing and wanting the attention of others outside your relationship to validate you as a woman, as desirable, as lovable, your inability to 'pass' on instant gratification, which is tied to emotional maturity and all of these things is about your low self-esteem, not loving your self.

So if you want to get to the issues and deal with them, consider counseling to help you become more self-aware.

Reading material for the self-esteem issues:

Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon

The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen

The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz

Self Matters, Phil McGraw

I hope you work it out.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 3:19pm
I agree.. Counseling would probably really help you sort out your feelings and get to the root of your problem. But of course nothing will work unless you want to change.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 4:19pm
It is time to seek counseling to find out where you learned to cheat. Did your parents have a similar relationship? Did boyfriends cheat on you? Do you lie about other things in relationships?