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| Mon, 02-23-2004 - 1:12pm |
Ok, here's the short of it...I'm mad, jealous and just generally in a bad mood because of this. My husband started about a year ago going to "Hooters" all the time and spending a whole pile of money, he would stay out half the night and come home drunk. During this time he got to know the waitresses there by name and when he goes in they all give him big hugs and just act like he's wonderful and they've known him forever. I've never had a problem with being jealous or going to "Hooters", I used to go often with him until he hugged on one of them one night in front of me and that was it. Now I go without because believe it or not "I" really do like the food. Now it's like everytime I turn around there is something new with Hooters plastered on it, the latest is the one that really hurt me. His birthday I wanted us to do something or even with the kids and he acted like it was no big deal. Well, guess who he did decide to share his birthday with...yep you guessed it. Now (and I don't know for how long) he has a Hooters calendar on the sunvisor of his truck with the pictures so that he can see them real good. I'm sorry but this bothers me and it really pisses me off that it bothers me. It just makes me feel like I'm not good enough. He's always carried pictures of me around and when we first got together he never would have done anything like this, he was so wonderful. If I say anything about it bothering me or hurting me, he starts defending the Hooters girls, like I care how they feel. Sorry it's so long, but I really need to know if I'm being stupid about this? We've had major fights in regards to this and it's not changing, I've made alot of changes in the way I act, dress etc.. and he still does this. What do I do?
Thanks,
Thanks,

Tiffany
My advice is to talk to him, tell him how you feel AND find a way to bring up marriage counseling because his behavior is inappropriate in my opinion. If he wants to act single, he may as well be single.
Yikes. Sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie
Tiffany
Tell him again how the calendars and time spent their make you feel. Tell him it is time to get counseling and if he says no then that will tell you a lot about how he feel about the marriage and how much effort he is willing to make for you, the children and the marriage.