He seems distant

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Registered: 03-31-2004
He seems distant
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 12:29am
my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship. last week i went to meet him and spend time with him for a week. we r meeting after 3 months. we stayed with a few of his friends and throughout the week he spent time with his friends, hanging out with them and going out with them. he hardly ever spent time with me and when i asked him about it , he said that we didnt have anything in common! i was so confused and disappointed. I thought he was calling the relationship off..but then before i left, he made me promise to call him and write to him and said he loves me! what is happening? the sex is great..but we hardly ever communicate and his friends take up all his time.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: sangee25
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 6:14am

ummmm does this remotely SOUND like a good relationship to YOU? he is using you for sex, plain and simple. sorry honey.... if someone treats you the way he is treating you - then you RUN don't walk away.


you are a nice person, you deserve to be treated with respect, don't let anyone treat you like this...

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Registered: 03-31-2004
In reply to: sangee25
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 11:52pm
Hi

I guess ur right...but we've been trying to get our relationship to work for almost a year now..i have been doing the " trying " part.I travelled 5000 miles to go see him and spend time with him and he didnt even spend a day with me...he hardly calls or makes an effort to keep in touch..:( ..i should have seen this coming...

Its so hard to let go and i love him so very much...I've been in love with him for the past 6 years..i guess i've become a doormat. I wish he would stop saying he loves me.

Thank you for ur honest reply. I really appreciate it.

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Registered: 03-30-2004
In reply to: sangee25
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:18am
He said you two have nothing in common and you never spend time alone when you're together. I think you've got your answer. The rest is to lead you on to believe otherwise.