he doesn't like to talk!!
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| Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:41am |
i've been seein my bf for more than 4 mths.. he's more of a quiet brooding type.. but mischevious when the mood strikes.. even from the beginning, i did realise tat he didn't have much of a penchant for chattin on the phone, but he indulged me.. abt a month ago, ever since he started work in a restaurant, 6 days a week. he doesn't seem to wanna talk at all anymore.. when i missed talkin to him, he's always tired, sleepy and not in the mood to talk or "dunno wat to say".
i'm not demandin tat he spend hours on end with me on the phone everyday indulgin in idle chat, but i'm beginnin to get the feelin like he isn't interested in talkin to me anymore or i'm juz plain boring.. nowadays he doesn't reply much of my sms either... it's makin me like i'm incapable of stimulating conversation..
however, on his off days, we do get out together.. catch movies and stuff.. or since he's so tired, we usually rent videos, drop by his place watch them and cuddle in bed.. we have a sexual relationship.. when he's with me, whether home or out, i can feel that he does care for me.. so it's not that bad.. juz the silence i guess..
is this healthy? my frenz tell me it's like that.. but i dunno.. i'm quite used to the idea of my bf being interested to call me and talk to me and stuff.. i'm beginnin to accept that there are guys out there whom are quiet and dun like to talk much but is my bf abit on the extreme side?
plus i dunno if this is a moot point, he doesn't seem to put in much effort to surprise me or make me happy.. (apart from lettin me choose the videos we rent and other stuff.. ) i mean, he's never bought me anything except my bday present last yr.. even v-day this year i didn't receive anything from him.. he did tell me less than a week before vday that let's not spend money since we were both abit financially tight but i'm not sayin he has to spend big bucks.. a little surprise would be nice... like i made him something..
anywayz.. my main point is, is it healthy to be with a guy who cares and loves you but doesn't like to talk to you much.. doesn't express himself verbally and stuff... we pretty much don't talk abt anythin besides his work schedule what we gonna do the night before his off day.. i wld like to hav him show care and concern for me.. abit more expressively...
i like to talk. even when he first knew me, and got together with me, he knew that.. i like to talk to him.. but now... i guess, i'm quite hung up abt this huh.. like i'm worried the magic could be gone for him.. are my fears unfounded??

Carrie