MY BABY WAS LEFT AT HOME.... ALONE

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Registered: 06-09-2003
MY BABY WAS LEFT AT HOME.... ALONE
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 6:03pm
Let me tell you. Well, my husband owns his own company, so he picks the days he decides he wants to work. Well, today I was running late for work and I decided since he has been home all week, that he would want to stay home today. Well, I left him and my daughter alseep this morning. At 2:15 when I came home, my 11 month old daughter was in her playstation screaming. I looked around the house looking for him. He wasn't anywhere to be found. I cleaned her up, fed her, and loved on her a bit. I called his mom. I asked her if I should call the police? She said to wait a few minutes. Well, I did. By the time he walked through the door, I was steaming. He started cussing at me for leaving the baby with him because he had to work. So I jumped all over him. I told him how disappointed I was in him. How irresponsible that it was that he left her here. He exclaimed that he went to the post office. and was only gone for a few minutes and if I would've left the carseat here then he would've taken her with him. He doesn't understand the trama he might have caused our daughter. What could've happened the few minutes that she was left alone. I just don't understand what in the world he was thinking. How many times has he done this before? I guess the reason why I am writing this is because you never know who you can trust with your kids. What can I say to him to make him realize that what he did was wrong? Thank you.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 6:16pm
You can't make him realize he was wrong because he doesn't think he's wrong....no more than you think you were wrong for leaving for work without talking to him about his schedule or leaving him a carseat.


Carrie

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Registered: 06-09-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 6:40pm
But I'm a woman, I am always right

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 10:10am
The same exact thing happened to me. I left my son with my husband, and he did the same thing. I was fuming. To make matters worse, we were in the middle of a custody trial, and my lawyer happened to call, when my son answered the phone. My son eventually left the house, looking for my husband, and being emotionally destrought and traumatized, the policed picked him up. Eventually I got the call.

I understand your frustration, but I do not have any answers. All I can say, is that it impossible to teach someone these basic innate skills, like, you do not leave your young kids home alone.

I usually take care of the kids, (and work full time too) and I just asked this little favor this one time. I had a mandatory meeting to goto in order to keep my license, and I could not miss it. The one day I did something, I get a call from the police, and my lawyer is reaming me out about my case.

To be honest with you, I just think women are the superior race, and we can handle more things and process more information then men can. When a man is confronted with this sort of challenge, it is like, it is out of their scope, and they just refuse to take resposibility.

I do not know that answers. I do know that these feelings are so intense, it is enough to want to kill someone.