i need to get over this... help
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i need to get over this... help
| Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:28pm |
i have a boyfriend... a great boyfriend who i love very much and would do anything for. He spoils me to no end. we have been having great sex for alost 6 months now and i am willing to do anything but evertime he asks me to get on top i can't. i freeze. it's really becoming an issue b/c i can't do it unless i am in his car. i know crazy. I really need to get over this. i dunno why i get incredibly insecure and scared( i feel like there''s no way i am going to do it right). It's crazy b/c i am a very sexy and cofident woman. i have no problems other than this and it's begining tomake things a little difficult, for me in terms of esteem. we were doing it on tues and once he asked me to get on top i just couldn't it really killed the moment for botrh of us, to the point where neither of us could perform. i dunno wat to do to get over this. pls help.
Leidy101@yahoo.com, NYJLeidy101@aol.com or post here... just give me advice pls.
Leidy101@yahoo.com, NYJLeidy101@aol.com or post here... just give me advice pls.

Edited 4/2/2004 9:00 am ET ET by sweetnopichick
First I can't believe that Muchado person said that to you. Wow, that was really not cool at all.Anyway, I totally understand your issue. I find myself having the same problem. My bf is very giving in the bedroom. We both are. I can do anything else he likes to please him but I get so freaked out when he asks me to get on top.I think it's because I feel like when I'm on top the spotlight is on me and I have to now "perform". I don't like that feeling at all.As a result I begin to think too much about what I'm doing and where my hands should be and how fast and how slow and then I get nervous if I think he's watching me. The thing that helps me is that I realize that most of the time when I'm on top his eyes are closed and he's just relaxing and enjoying what I'm doing. He's not staring at me and critiqing me at all. Maybe that would help you too. Try and turn it into like a little game if you can. When you get on top tell him you want him to close his eyes. Maybe that will help atleast until you become more comfortable. At this point I still get nervous at first but then I really get into it and when he wants to switch positions I tell him "Nah, I wanna stay here a little bit longer:)!"
Good Luck!!Hope this helps!
Best,
Cheyenne
Carrie