My Girlfriend makes fun of my Penis

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Registered: 04-02-2004
My Girlfriend makes fun of my Penis
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 8:18pm
I have been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years. Our sexual relationship is good (I think). However, my girlfriend indirectly makes fun of my penis. She said that it too short. She asked me if I could make it longer. When ever she makes fun of it, i would pretend to saying something funny back. She didn't know that it hurts my feeling. She's been doing for 2 years. Until recently, the last time she made of it it...I got kinda mad so I let her know.....and I told her that its affecting my performance because I keep on thinking what she made fun of....But instead she got mad at me back because she said she was only kidding around with me...And that I am too sensitive. I told her if I were sensitive, I would be mad a her a long time ago... She insisted that I am too sensitive and it my fault for getting mad at her. She does not she herself at fault for hurting my feeling. I love my girlfriend very very much. I would do everything for her. However, this joking matter seems to get caught in our good relationship. What should I do?

Thanks,

LL

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Registered: 10-14-1999
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:36pm
She tells you you are too sensitive for getting upset with her put downs? Hon, I think you have the wrong girl. She neither cares that she hurts you nor is she taking responsibility for doing so. I have no doubts that she would cry foul loudly if you 'joked' about her weight, breast or behind size. this is not part of a loving, caring and mutually respectful relationship.

Even if she thinks you are being to sensitive, she should respect your right to feel that way and stop making the comments. She doesn't. That says she is not right for you.

You may love your girlfriend very much, however, she sees nothing wrong with belittling you and causing you hurt. That is not love. YOu have a choice - tell her you will not accept her 'jokes' and give her the opportunity to correct her behavior. If she doesn't or continues to make this your fault then your choice is to continue to accept disrespectful behavior and value the relationship more htan your own happiness or tell her goodbye and find someone who loves you for you and thinks every inch of you is fantastic.

Best wishes.

Toni

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 11:25am
i agree. im not telling you what to do, whether to take her humuliation or dump her... but you deserve some respect. i know when im with the man i love, i wouldn't say anything about his size to make him feel less superior, and even if i did, when he was hurt, i would stop and apologize. you have every right to be sensitive.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 12:47pm
Okay, what she is doing to you is so wrong! Even if she feels you are a bit short for her she should NEVER belittle you or make fun of you about it...kidding or no. You just don't do that. Infact, most women make it a point to compliment their man's unit. I always make sure my man knows that I love it, crave it, and I treat it as the ultimate reward at the end of the day. And I do feel that way about it, but not b/c of it's size or anything but because it's his and I love him. But it makes him feel great to know I love his penis and all it can do to me. And he gives me the same treatment back. It helps with the performance value and it enhances the intimacy and passion in the bedroom as well as outside the bedroom.

You need to tell her straight up that you will take no more of that talk about your penis. If she says it's a joke, tell her that you are not laughing!!!! If she don't change her ways then don't give her any. And this will show exactly how she feels about you....you may end up dropping her for someone who will love the whole of you and will lavish you with compliments!!!

Jennifer

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 5:39pm
Sometimes a person can shoot fiery darts into the heart and say it was all in jest. It's not. I agree with the other posts. Best wishes.
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Registered: 10-08-2003
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 5:43pm
Tonitoons, you said it all!