Do I need to get over it?
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| Sat, 04-03-2004 - 1:00am |
Usually it involves a lot of drama and I have to stand up because I am disrespected. Now, I have the cajones to stand up to someone who is is disrespecting me, but the problem will be the relationship. For some reason, I can not go out with these girls again. Even if they say I am sorry.
For example, the cell phone goes off, and they say "I have to take this." Even if they say sorry after I say why did you do this, my sexual appetite for them goes way down. Another is if I have to talk them out canceling the date.
Basically, if it is rude and obnoxious at the early stages of dating, I RARELY see these girls again. And it is by my choice. They will call me, but I say I am not interested.
So do I need to get over it or is it their IMMATURITY?
Let me add, I can tolerate tests that DO NOT DISRESPECT me.

Carrie
Basic courtesy goes a long way in my book. Many people have no clue what that is anymore. If these games leave you feeling disrespected, then by all means, discontinue the relationship.
Toni
I think that makes a lot of sense when looking back at a few things. I think if I was more diplomatic and should have been more reconcilitory. Finding out the problem and letting her KNOW she was important. And then let her actions speak for themselves.
It just proves: do not play games and try to be real. Less confusion:)
I have a question: If a girl is NOT looking for monogomy, why is she looking for drama? Is it because she wants increase the passion in the short term?
As far as monogamy, I think they lose sight of what that is. I know one woman who says she just goes out with "friends"; she's engaged now and she cheats on him. That is not uncommon, from what I've seen. Unfortunately, after people fall into a pattern of behavior, it's hard to get out of it, I think. That's why I advised you to look for someone who's looking for monogamy from the get-to, rather than feigning a lack of interest in anything serious. After awhile, what they imagine becomes true, in a sense. God "chooses their delusions". In short, they're playing games with people's hearts, but in the end they're the ones that get fooled. I personally believe their hearts get hard, like an adamant rock. Men are not immune to this, either. Best wishes.