He literally stopped calling & emailing

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Registered: 04-03-2004
He literally stopped calling & emailing
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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 9:39pm
Have you gone through this? I was dating this man whom I met in college 13 years ago. We were great friends and then started a relationship in 2002. I had fallen in love with him from the day I met him and knew he would change my life. We had a little something in college, but since we were still young, it never went anywhere, but feelings were there for both of us. Little did I know the effect he would really have. To make a long story short, we had a serious and deep relationship throughout 2002 and everything was the best it had ever been with anyone I'd ever been with. Since the feeling from college never left, although I had seriously dated other men, this was the best because I only ever wanted him. In early 2003 we had a little disagreement, but it was literally over a forgotten concert. He stoopped emailing me and calling and everything just stopped. No explanation, nothing. He sent me a birthday ecard last summer and promised to explain everything to me, but of course, didn't. It has killed me for the past year and three months and I'm having a really tough time letting go. I'm with someone else now whom I love very much, but I still miss the man I've adored for 13 years. Has anyone had this type of experience? Please share how you're dealing and coping. Even my therapist is at a loss for words and going in circles. Thank you so much for your help.
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Registered: 03-31-2004
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 10:46am
Haven't had that exact experience, but somewhat similar.....

Don't except his "hiding" from you...go, find him, knock on his door and make him accountable for what he has done....demand an explanation if for no other reason than closure....he owes you that much!

Personally I think we let men get away with this kind of behavior way too much....time for them to "own" their actions!!
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Registered: 04-03-2004
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 8:17pm
Thanks for the words of inspiration!! I did email and call and email and call and you get the picture. But NOTHING from him!! I tried and tried and it was impossible. It just hurts so much. The worst part is that I'm in this relationship now with someone who simply adores me and treats me well yet I'm hung up on this fool who hurt me more than anyone ever has. Ugh. I hate (most)men.