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| Sun, 04-04-2004 - 11:42am |
Background:
A friend of mine, whom I have known for 5 years and been very close to recently came to visit me for the first time. (all of our prior communication has been online or on the phone). We never persued anything in the romantic sense. We were always, just there for one another.. offering support and advice when ever requested.
Recently, that friendship conspired into alot more. We began talking about the future, feelings we were developing for one another, etc. I wanted to see if the chemistry and spark was going to be the same in person, before we continued to persue anything. (he had moved half way across the country.. one for better job opportunities, two to be closer to me - (at least within driving distance.) So after some prodding he agreed and came to see me. Things went exceptionally well. WE hit it off immediately. He said a number of things that led me to believe he felt the same. (for example, said he wished he were more financially stable.. when I asked why (for other than obvious reasons) he said so that he could put a ring on my finger... very serious, futuristic statements. ) He even stayed 2 days longer than he had originally planned.
He got home and still seemed very happy about the whole situation.. we were talking online and he was talking to his brother, telling him all about his trip, me, etc...
The next day, was a complete and total turn around. I have never seen him so distant from me before. I had never felt so distant from him. Well, for the last few days, I have felt very brushed off. To the point, I could no longer tolerate it. So, I called him and asked if he had time to speak. He said yes, and that after he ate dinner he would jump online.
He told me he had alot of stressful things going on in his life (btw which were present prior to his coming to see me). Main thing is him finding a job and establishing himself again. He said with all that going on, he didn't want to make any decisions about us. He stated that he wanted to have a clear head when it came time to make those kinds of decisions. He didn't want to say something, he didn't mean and didn't want to not say something he did. (still a bit confused on that part).. at any rate, he asked for time. Time for him to sort through everything...
Is there any positive in this? Could he really just need time? Is he afraid of committing? ( we were discussing myself moving back home (where he is now located and my family). Could things have gone so well, and then just changed? I have a dozen other questions, but would like some insight for those willing to offer it..
thanks...

It sounds like he got cold feet.
another bit of info.... he helped me alot through my past relationship were I kept going back to the wrong guy..
any chance this could be a test?
someone please give me some sort of response =(
Who knows?