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Too much info...now Im stuck with it...
| Sun, 04-04-2004 - 6:10pm |
I am dating a man, quite seriously, and we started out as friends. When we were friends, he was going through a painful breakup and shared alot with me about that. Like how she was the strongest mental and physical connection he had ever had, and he felt he'd never have that again. That the day he met her was the best day of his life. Well...now we date and Im just...stuck...with those words in my head. But my real question is this: They speak on the phone about once a week. Hes not secretive about this with me...If I say "so...talk with anyone this weekend?" in casual conversation, if he has spoken with her, he will tell me, and give me the updates on her life (not that I ask...believe me). Should I feel threatened by this??? Well I DO feel threatened...I guess Im wondering if I have a right to feel this way.
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| Sun, 04-04-2004 - 6:39pm |
I would feel like you are feeling. How can he say she was the single strongest connection he had with another person, etc., then say he wants you but still keep close contact with her? It's just not fair to you. You shouldn't be made to feel second best to anyone. I think he needs to get clear with you about what's going on in his heart and mind to be fair to you. I would sit-down and have a talk with him. You don't want someone on the rebound. It just hurts too much, I think. Based upon experience, you'll never be able to compete with someone's fantasy image of a past flame. Even if he doesn't really feel that way about her any more, he should be able to at least leave the door open for you. If he can't, there's something really wrong. Best wishes.
