Magnum PI

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Registered: 04-05-2004
Magnum PI
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 9:48pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. We have two beautiful daughters together ages 4 and 2 and they are truly daddy's girls. Recently my boyfriend purchased a new cell phone...Suncom Hiptop...minicomputer thing. I was surfing the net on the phone and the phone just kept ringing with the same telephone number appearing over and over again. I work for another cell phone company so I took it upon myself to see just how often the phone number was being dialed from his phone and how often the phone number came into his phone. I took his information and placed a password on his account and changed the voicemail code and checked his voicemail for days. I accused him of cheating and kicked him out of the house. Its been going on two weeks now and deep down in my heart of hearts I dont think he cheated on me. But I guess he cant trust me and I dont think I could trust myself after all of this. He keeps saying that we need to just let things die down a little first and then try to work through our problems. I believe that if he's in one place and I am in another we will never truly work out our problems. I feel for my girls because I never grew up without my dad and I dont think they should have to grow up without theirs. I am aware that I have trust issues due to a failed first marriage and he also has the same thing due to a failed first marriage as well. I dont know if we should just go our separate ways or is there a solution to this never ending saga.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: msoverton
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 10:23pm
Have either of you done anything to overcome your "trust issues"? There's tons of reading material out there for starters. But I'd suggest you seek some professional counselling. The deep down issues you both have will most likely continue to interfere with you being able to develop a healthy relationship (with each other or anyone else). In order to overcome those issues, you probably need more help and guidance than an anonymous message board provides. Good luck.


Edited 4/5/2004 10:24 pm ET ET by boobeetrap