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| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:45pm |
He let her down gently, saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Then a couple months later, we got back together. She kept asking him to hang out with her (just the two of them), go see a movie and have dinner. Every time they planned something together though, something would happen and it would not follow through. Around Christmas, she invited him to her family Christmas gathering. He asked her parents if he could bring me along and they said yes, but in the end, we both decided not to go because we didn't want to upset her at her own house party by showing up together.
I've never met her in person. Before I knew she liked him, I would ask him to ask her to join us when we go to the movies or hang out, but she would decline, saying she didn't want to be the third wheel (now I know why).
Should I be understanding that she doesn't make any effort to know me or befriend me, because she likes him? Should I not be hurt when she sends him a birthday card and writes things like "I hope we can get together pretty soon and your girlfriend doesn't mind sharing you for one night"?
My boyfriend and I've talked about marriage and future, which might not happen for a long time (Which is okay with me), but I don't want this to bother me everytime she asks him to hang out with her exclusively. So far, he hasn't gone out with her either because he's spending time with me or doing something else.
Any input will be appreciated. Thanks.

Carrie