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husband is 2 different men
| Wed, 04-07-2004 - 7:35am |
My husband joined the army and has been in Korea Almost a month, not even. We have a 10 month old daughter. He left promising me after lots of troubles that he would provide for me now and told me not to work, that i didn't need to, that he'd take care of us. He got his income tax refund and gave me less than half. He had over 2,000 dollars and blew it in Korea. I have to move out to New Mexico away from New Orleans where I am now. I never got money from him for an apartment. We started a joint account but I still don't have the password for withdrawals. He has maxed out our joint account. He keeps overdrawing, spending and spending. He spent 190 at the bowling alley. He knows I am suffering and having struggles. I need an apartment and he had more than enough to help me. Now he tells me he is sorry and give him one last chance. I said this is THE last chance. I love him but I am tired of his lies, his excessive spending, and his extreme selfishness.

Are you working now? How are you supporting your daughter? I hate to say it but it sounds like you need to start fathoming what it might be like to be an officially single mother. From the way you're describing your current situation, it wouldn't be too different. Although you would have the comfort of knowing you will depend on you and not a guy to take care of you and your daughter. That's power.
Stop depending on him. He's shown you he is not dependable. You are responsible for making sure your daughter has a place to live, food and clothes. Your husband is not here. You are the only parent she has now. And you are also responsible for your own well being. If you allow yourself to be controlled by your husband like this, you will continue to suffer. And you'll take your child with you. Think about that.
First thing you need to do is get a job if you don't have one. Get a checking account that is yours and yours alone. DO NOT give your husband any access to it. In fact, I wouldn't even mention it to him now. Get your life together. Then think about your marriage.
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