I ruined it, can it be fixed?

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Registered: 02-25-2004
I ruined it, can it be fixed?
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Sun, 04-11-2004 - 9:13pm
I walked out of a relationship with a man I loved because he can't openly say he wants or needs me, although he tried in other ways to let me know, I missed all the signs and after an argument packed and left while he was at work.After several attempts and awful misunderstandings on my part, I left a third time and tried to get him out of my head and heart with another man. He welcomed me back once again and his love was obvious until I admitted to seeing someone else. Now he won't talk to me and when I force him to, he tells me to move on, he does'nt want me in his life. Is there anything I can do to get us back or have I truly ruined it?












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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 9:42pm
It sounds to me like you have some of your own issues to work on and that you probably did ruin this relationship for good. I must say that he was awfully generous in letting you come back that last time and I don't blame him one bit for not wanting you now. I think you need to follow his advice and just move on.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 10-14-1999
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 1:17pm
you can't force anyone to do anything they do not want to do. I agree withthe other poster - you sound as if you have trust issues that prevent you from accepting love completely. A good counselor can help you work through your issues and also to accept this loss and move on.

Until you solve the problems within your own heart, your relationships will not be as satisfying as they could be.

Toni