BF has lack of sex drive due to stress
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BF has lack of sex drive due to stress
| Mon, 04-12-2004 - 4:11pm |
Help, my Bf got a DWI a little over a month ago and is really depressed about it. Though being a man he wont admit depression. He has lost interest in sex. There are money issues involved and and alcohol problem. I know I cant fix it, but what can I do to help him out of this slump hes in before it ruins our relationship
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| Mon, 04-12-2004 - 5:54pm |
No sex drive is the least of your worries here. If he's got a problem with alcohol, he needs professional help. You cannot "fix" his problems for him (money problems, alcohol problems, or his depression). You can offer understanding and support, but he needs to get help for himself. If he doesn't, things will not get better.
| Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:27am |
i agree for the most part with secretiger --- its not the "lack of sex drive" that will ruin your relationship, its the "addiction-induced lifestyle" that will/are ruining your relationship. YOU can't help him - and being "supportive" of him won't help either, it will only hurt both of you. get yourself to al-anon.
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:44pm |
Thank you both for your comments. I understand that this man is not my responsibility and what he does is not my responsibility. I am taking al-anon into consideration. Ive told him I will be here for him but I can not help him if he doesnt help himself. Hes an all around sweet person with alot of personal problems. The recent events hes brought upon himself and I do not feel sorry for him. I refuse to attempt to "fix" him or change him. He has to want it, and I fully understand that. As a man he will not admit hes depressed, but has admitted to having an alcohol problem. I understand its hard for men to admit any weaknesses. Again thanks for your comments, and if you pray, please keep him in your prayers.
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:06pm |
i'm choosing to keep YOU in my prayers. you sound very strong right now - i am praying for your sake that you do not lose your resolve, and that you do go to al-anon. good luck!
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:10pm |
Thank you SK that means the world to me right now. And Im checking into al-anon tonight.
