Just a quick question about breaking up?
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Just a quick question about breaking up?
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:17am |
Okay I have been on here a couple of days now... So some of you are familiar with my situation. But to make it quick my younger boyfriend broke up with me because he needed space & did not want a relationship and wanted to be single. Oh he also told me I had no direction in life... So here is the question: I just found out that his school has 2 more weeks until exams. He hasn't been doing to well and with all the attention I demand he hadn't had much time to study... Does anyone think that might be why he broke up with me so abruptly and at the time he did b/c he knew he had to buckle down otherwise he would be messing up his own future? & I am going to go back to summer school (which will show I have direction). So this relationship stands a chance, right? If I go back to school and make myself busy being successful and he has time to do well in school then if we become preoccupied with ourselves and our success we have a chance of getting back together, right?

Although you want the relationship to have a chance, there is no reason to assume that it does. You are only assuming that is the reason he broke up with you. He told you, however, he wanted to be single. It's best to believe what he says and not create other reasons in your imagination. Whether or not the two of you are together it's a good idea for you to work hard at school, have direction in your life and not place many demands upon others. The more we grow and take care of ourselves the better able we are to find a mature, mutual relationship where all goes well. Focus on your own life, on becoming clear, strong and interested in what you are doing. Then, what is right for you will come along. No reason to assume it is him.
Best wishes.
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