My 6 month 'limit'

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Registered: 03-22-2004
My 6 month 'limit'
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 10:56am
Well, I noticed that I had been feeling slightly nitpicky and unhappy about my relationship a lot lately, so I made myself sit down and try to figure out what exactly was bothering me so much, and my epiphany kind of scared me.

It occured to me that in every relationship that I've been in lasting 6 months or more, from high school on, I reach the 6 month mark and freak out. My mindset ranges anywhere from 'Wayyyy too much committment' to 'Now what?'. It's not insurmountable to get over it, but it does seem to be a rough patch.

I love my current boyfriend, and we have a great relationship, but as I figured out yesterday, it seems like I've developed the bad habit of wanting to sabotage my relationships. Maybe I do it to save myself heartache by cutting things off at an earlier date, maybe I do it to test his interest in me, or maybe I just do it because I'm a relationship phobic....

Am I cursed to remain this way and constantly be the 6 month wonder for the rest of my life?