hubby wants sex w/my best friend
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| Wed, 07-07-2004 - 1:57pm |
we talked after he had 2 orgasms! (that has only happened one other time with him) and he said that he would not consider acting on this fantasy, but 'wondered' what i thought about it. honestly i am very uncomfortable around both of them now. she has mentioned him (in non-sexual ways) several times (very unusual for her to do this) since and i believe that she is interested in him.
a little history, about 8 or 9 years ago he shared the same fantasy about the same woman but at time she and her hubby were happily married and having regular sex.
my concern is over 2 issues:
1)same woman, same fantasy (makes me think more than fantasy on his part)...she's vulnerable
2)them being together in social settings
i love my hubby VERY much and i cherish the friendship with her, my question is how do i keep both relationships and keep THEM seperate??????
any ideas will be appreciated, i am VERY uncomfortable having my best friend in bed with us, even just in theory! PLEASE HELP!!!!
p.s. guess i should mention that we had sex this morning and i asked if he had had the 2 orgasms due to talking and thinking about her, he said no but he had 3 today although it seemed that he was trying too hard. maybe to prove that it was not due to her.

If his values say "cheating is wrong" - then he won't cheat if she's lying there naked and begging. If his values say that whatever i can get away with I should - she won't have to be doing anything and at the right place, in the right time - he'll attempt it.
However, if HER values say that sleeping with him - because of your friendship or her standards - is wrong...no matter what he tries - he won't get anywhere.
I can see YOU sleeping on the couch with your friend given that she was upset about her situation. But why did HE join you two in doing it? Because that is unusual for a man that values his marriage and his vows...to be in bed with another woman - even if his wife is present.
Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com
thanks to those replying, i've been going nuts...but i feel better now.