sex question

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Registered: 05-04-2004
sex question
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 2:52pm
Well I need a serious help on my sexual life. I have a boyfriend who's 24 yrs old and i am 27 yrs old. We are inlove, living together with marriage plans. He is very handsome, tall, sexy, tender, sweet, passionate, romantic, wild, open minded, giver and patient. All i wanted and needed is him. I am so inlove with him and I like him so much but i rarely want sex. I rarely feel excited about sex don't know why? He is so good to me, patient and talks to me and waits but he tries and tries different ways but at the end i get turned on and than i loose it. I consider my self shy at times and insecure and maybe that is the reason why i cannot go all the way. This doesn't happen always but a lot. Sometimes he waits for 1-2 month to have sex with me because i cannot go all the way. And when i really get into it i really enjoy it and can do it manny time but other just hard too. Can this damage my relatioship? Please help? What should I do? I want to be more sexual.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2004
In reply to: flower2078
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 3:00pm
Of course it can damage your relationship. Relationship without healthy sex is not going to last long. You must get comfortable with yourself before trying to push yourself to get more sexual. You might feel uncomfortable with your own body because of shyness or simply being too thin or too heavy but you must remember that this guy is still trying to be with you and to arouse you and that is a good sign that shows he hasn't turned to another for sex YET. If you have already tried to get more comfprtable with your own body & sexuality and it hasn't worked, then get pro. help. You can email me at annie_nazi@yahoo.com if you need to talk about it in privacy..
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Registered: 03-03-2004
In reply to: flower2078
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 3:06pm
Your difficulties could stem from emotional conflicts possibly. It could have physical origins. Sometimes they say taking something to boost the thyroid can help. Maybe you want to talk to a physician and rule-out something like that. I tend to have a very low drive also, in and out of relationships. In my case, I've been taking vitamin B supplements to help me with regulating my emotions, nervousness, etc. Good luck.