Moving out and Moving On?
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Moving out and Moving On?
| Sat, 07-10-2004 - 11:07am |
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We have lived together for two years in a condo and recently he purchased a house. When we moved out of the condo there was short period which I was living with my parents and he with his. I told him that moving into a house together was a big step and I wanted to be sure to have more of a commiment from him. He talked about marriage, which he never did before and I was okay with this. He has never talked about marriage and has said in the past that he is not sure that he ever wants to be married. We moved into the house and four weeks later I noticed a change in him. After some discussion, I found out that the only reason he said those things about marriage was because he didn't think I would move into the house with him, he felt I was giving him an altimatium. So, he told me that me being in the hosue all the time has gotten too comfortable and when we were living apart it was new and exciting and he thinks that if I move back home that it will give him time to think about things such as marriage. He also said that perhaps I should find an apartment on my own and that will teach me "responsiblility" and I will know what it is like to be on my own. I am 25 years old and he is 32. He said that he is not sure that he ever wants to be married and the condo was not permanent and now that this house is permanent he wants to make sure everything is right. I am not sure if he just wants to be single or not? He said that he thinks that living at home with my parents will make everything better and new again, that it will give him time to think about things. Please help I am so confused? Do I give him his space or just break it off. I would like to get married someday and I do not want children so I don't have a timeline of when I want to be married but would like to someday
I don't know what to do, PLEASE HELP!!!!
I don't know what to do, PLEASE HELP!!!!
