Move Over Mom
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| Sat, 07-10-2004 - 6:34pm |
You see, he is a seminary student (a whole other story in itself), and since summer break arrived, has been living at home to save money. Now, I can completely understand the saving money. The problem lies in the fact that he is 26 years old and his mother is still running his life.
During the school year, my boyfriend had spent almost every night with me at my place. I knew that that would not happen quite as frequently while he was living at home. However, I was not prepared for what would happen next. On the first night that he tried to stay with me after moving home, his mother called him at 1AM to say that she couldn't sleep if he didn't come home. And guess who went. Things have only gotten worse from there.
And the cell phone that she called him on is her own. He doesn't have his own, never has since we have been dating, but now all of the sudden since he is living at home, he takes his mom's phone wherever he goes - and guess who is the only person who calls on that phone - Mom!
Respect and admiration for one's mother is admirable. But, when is enough enough? If he can't say no to her now, will he ever be able to?

Yes, he is a seminarian. Yes, there are certain guidelines that one is encouraged to follow. However, I give him credit for his willingness to not follow all things blindly. One does not have to believe everything one is taught to be considered devout. I certainly don't agree with everything my church teaches (I am Catholic, he is not).
And who is to say that spending the night in a bed together equates to other, more "sinful" activity.
If anyone has comments on the mother issue, I would love to hear.
He won't change with regards to the mother thing. You have to take it or leave it. I vote to leave it.