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feeling lonely
| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 12:16pm |
My husband & I own our own business & here lately he has been working 20 to 24 hrs a day for days at a time & then he is so tired he never has time for me. I feel like he's doing this because he don't love me anymore & he says he does it for me . This is becoming very unhealthy for both of us because we fight all the time on the phone. How can I make him understand that this is what is wrong with us & cut back on working? I love him very much & do not want to lose him.

Nancy
Every relationship (just like every person) needs time, attention, play, communication. The heart of a healthy life and relationship is "balance". Let your husband know that you appreciate that he is doing this for you, but that if he really cares about you and the relationship, what he needs to do is to create balance in his life and make sure there is time for the two of you to be together. Let him know the effects this kind of work schedule is having upon you.
Sometimes people do jump into excessive work to hide from issues and feelings. Sometimes they lose sight of the whole picture and it comes from a sense of insecurity and fear. Tell him this. Help him realize that it cannot go on this way forever without having bad effects on everyone. Help him understand what he's wrestling with. Workaholicsm can become an addiction, like anything else.
All good wishes.
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