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Registered: 08-13-2003
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 4:51pm
I met matt around this time last year, we hit it off imediately. But, at that time he had just gotten out of a bad relationship and needed to have his "space" before he could get into anything with me.

I see him just about every weekend, at a place we go to. Every once and a while he will call me and want to come over and hang out, and then i don't hear from him for a long time. And when i do, it's not until he see's me talking to someone new, or come into our common place with a date. It's like he gives me enough to keep me hanging on.

I kind of feel pathetic, because i will leave him a message every saturday, just letting him know i would like to hear from him or see him. And for some reason i can't move on.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: shanna1277
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 6:04pm
Try not leaving him a message, just for one Saturday.

I want to say this gently, but not sure how....so I apologize when I say that he probably does see you as pathetic and the only one who can change that is you. If he was interested, he would want to spend time with you - lots of time. Stop calling him, stop letting him come hang out. Hang out with friends instead, or your family, go shopping alone if you have to. Anything but hang out with him. He is taking advantage because he's being allowed to.

You deserve better, but you need to be the first one to believe that.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: shanna1277
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:08am
Great advice!!!

You see, you are simply 'back burner material' to him right now. He likes to know you are hanging on for whenever it's convenient for him. But he has no intention of settling down at all and by saying he's just gotten out of a bad relationship, well, that is such a great excuse!! Many players use it ya know. It's an easy out for someone who is gullable. Don't be that gullable girl. Just take all the will you have and don't call him. Move on and fine someone who deserves you!!!!

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 07-20-2003
In reply to: shanna1277
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:16am
I have to agree with the other posts~if he did care or want to be with you he would try to make as much if not more effort than you are~it's like that "outta sight outta mind" phrase~when he sees you he "KNOWS" you want to talk or be with him but when he doesnt' see you he forgets until it happens again....if he really did care he would make effort and want to pursue something more~please don't spend time on this it seems to me he is going nowhere...with you...you deserve much better than that~I know you cant' be happy wondering and waiting all the time....go on...and find someone that will REALLY make you happy!!! Good luck!

Desiree