When is it Really Over with Boyfriend?
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| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 7:23pm |
I have been dating someone for 11 months now. I am 34 and not into games and hardly think that this is considered dating any longer, though still find myself tied to this gentleman. If not emotionally any longer, than what I am not sure? As of approx. mid May we have stopped seeing each other. Now, this started off like a long distance romamce, but now gone bad. My still, boyfriend calls me every morning. (though too early for me too be awake and leaves me a message) This is the only time that we communicate for the most part. (Sometime a late evening message is also left, to late for me to be still awake) I then call him back, having to leave him a message. We rarely actually speak live. This returning of his call on my way to work, has become a feeling of habit in the last 6 weeks. Why we don't actually come face to face any longer, is all his doing. His business is apparently "Booming!", plus he is in the midst of moving. His mother is planning on moving and he has bought his mothers home and land. You can image that his sibiling are less than pleased about his buying of this mothers home, to now be his and his alone. I have given him invitations to join me on weekend events and he either fails to respond saying; he will get back later with me on it or something will usually come up. I have told friends that I feel like a mistress in this man life and never really a part of it. Now how many hours does one man really need to work? I continuelly receive calls from him, which tells me he 'must' be still interested? I don't call him to say "Hi", and feel like if I do this I will only be pestering and besides more than likely be leaving a message anyways. It has come to the point now when he does say that we will get together for dinner or for an occasion, I have already pre-determinded that he really will not be available, which he isn't. I receive flowers in the office, and often promises of it getting better between us, but how long is too long to be waiting for changes to occur? He has become a flake in my eyes and I am not sure if his calling me "Sweetheart and Honey" should continue while I am feeling more and more pissy with his actions. Is the old saying true? Your Work is your Mistress? That is what it has come to and I am spending a great deal of time alone, feeling obligated to stay and wait a little longer. ~
Edited 7/12/2004 7:45 pm ET ET by snow_white2004
Edited 7/12/2004 7:55 pm ET ET by snow_white2004

Be happy.
C
That's when its over
Thank you for your insite. I do agree that when a man is no longer interested he makes himself scarce. Never to be found unless he wants to be. This is the one of the reasons why I continue to stick it out. He must think, I am worth it? To continuelly keep in contact. (even when I don't make the first attempt to call him).
Like this a.m. / I haven't heard from him since last night, leaving me a message at 6:30p.m. I was busy and not able to take the call. (was in the middle of a class which he knew I would be at this time) He asked me to call back after, (once out of my class) telling me of his day. I didn't return his call, I continued to be to busy and also didn't feel like leaving yet another message. This morning his usual call left in the early a.m. was 'not' to be found and I didn't make my routine call on my way into the office either. Thought about it but, why call? After all, I have been so fed up lately that I am border line calling it quits. Will, I hear from him today? Not likely. Perhaps I will receive a message late this evening? This is the day and times/ messages of my life lately. The thing is, I would rather not even be in any relationship, if this one does crumple. Why? Just more head-ache ~
Take Care ~ and thanks ~