I'm cheating on my husband
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| Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:16pm |
My husband and I have been having trouble - he has told me on numerous occasions that he is not sure if he loves me and whether we should be together. We would always work through the problem, with him confessing that he is just immature and coming to realization how much work marriage really is. Recently, my husband and I were on vacation (5 year anniversay..nice) and he picked the same fight again. I just couldn't take it anymore and left to come home - husband stayed on vacation. When I got home, guess who was in town... yes the Ex. Well, we hooked up and OH MY! All the feelings that we both remembered came rushing back - one small problem. He is supposed to get married in August. He thought that I was happily married and finally moved on - but this seems to be changing everything.
It is so difficult to figure out what I really want and keep the drama separate. Please! I need advise from real people.

If you are having problems with your husband, it will be EASY to see your ex as hvaing everything your looking for. But it isnt fair to anyone to see your ex while you are still with your husband. It will undoubtedly cause a HUGE mess. And there is your ex's fiancee to think about here to. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS put yourself in the other person's shoes before you act.
"How would you feel if the roles were reversed? HOw would you have prefered the situation be dealt?"
Once you have answered those questions then do it. Respect for all those involved, including yourself is the only way anything real relationshpi will work. If you are meant to be wiht your ex, he will deal with his current situation first as will you, and you can hook up once thats done. If neither one of you can wait that long, then it isnt supposed to be.
Just be careful of hurting people if you don't have to.