What do I do now??

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Registered: 01-12-2004
What do I do now??
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 6:38pm
Well, earlier I posted a big long post that I thought my BF was cheating on me as I found a strange # on the phone bill and in his pocket. He wouldn't be honest with me, he kept telling me that he couldn't remember whose # it was. I took matters into my own hands and called. It's a girls #. I called him to talk about it and he's such an idiot. I never talked to the girl, I just heard her voicemail and all's I said to him was, "I called the number, I know everything, and now I want to hear it from you." The fool broke down and told me everything since he thought I already knew. He SAYS (and I sort of believe him since he thought I already knew this when he told me) that he was out with a few friends at the beginning of May and one of them introduced him to a girl he knew. They all hung out all night and this girl asked him if she could call him sometime. He claims he told her he has a GF (I doubt it) but she said no, no I just want to be friends so he gave her his #. I know how dumb this is, I think he's an idiot. So then they started talking on the phone and he SWEARS that nothing has ever happened between them, that he's never actually even seen her in person since the night they met. He claims that she pursued him and that he only called her back. Now, that's BS b/c she doesn't have our new # but there's been 2 calls from our new # to her, conveniently when I'm not home. I love this man with all my heart and I'm pregnant with his baby and we were supposed to be married soon. And in all honesty, I believe he never cheated on me (physically). But here's the thing. They way I feel right now, I could never, EVER trust him again. If he told me he was out w/his friends, I wouldn't believe him. If he told me he was working late, I'd be calling to check up. That's no way to live-for either of us. Should I kick this guy to the curb?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: shs157
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 7:48pm
I think you go to a couples counselor to figure out how and if trust can be regained. Maybe not, but at least you will have tried your best.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Good luck and let us know what you decide to do.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: shs157
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 8:52pm
shs157...

You've indicated that "right now...I could never ever trust him again!"

S0...why are continuing with this relationship?

Pianoguy