I'm tired of hearing "I'm Sorry"
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| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:26pm |
Over the past 3 months, my fiancee and I have been having a hard time seeing eye to eye on a lot of issues. The problem.... I feel like he's not listening, and his action more than confirm it. DH will do something, that he knows bothers me, (like having beer after work with his coworkers... when u are fighting a border line alcohol issue, this is a big deal), I get mad and tell him that it's not right, then all i hear is "i'm sorry", "i'm sorry", I'm an ass, I'm so stupid, I'm failure. I sit there and tell him that he's not he just needs to think...etc. and then 2 days later (not even sometimes) he'll come home reeking of beer again. When I ask him about it, he tells me that it's not a big deal and I'm getting riled up over nothing. (Nothing.... let's see, if the opportuinity rears it's ugly head, I will become an alcoholic if allowed.) If I don't cook dinner, we go hungry, if I don't clean, the house stays dirty. This just keeps going around and around and around. We are cat sitting right now and if the cat gets restless (outdoor cat that has to stay indoor....) it's me that has to get up. He doesn't even hear it, although when it's happening, he has more than enough opinion. I'm just gettin so frustrated and I find that I am crying more, but I don't know what to do. Talking to him doesn't help, begging, pleading, crying, none of it is getting through to him. I hear I'm sorry and then it repeats itself. He is also very hard on himself and I'm emotionally drained. I don't know what to do. If i bring up the subject, he's so hard on himself that i never want to say anything. He tells me that he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but his actions speak differently and they speak louder than any words i ca say......... help sorry to ramble.......
Jenn

If you're not happy with the situation right now...can you imagine how MISERABLE you'll be after the wedding?
You are expecting your fiancee to respond the way YOU want him to...and it doesn't sound like he ever will! So the result is...you'll become a nag and he'll no longer apologize because he'll be "out having a beer with the boys!"
If you feel you're the only one keeping the relationship alive...cut your losses and end it! Just don't become an alcoholic...because too many drinks usually bring out the worst traits in everyone!
Pianoguy
MB
My opinion.