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| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 7:39pm |
Hi, I'm not usually good with these forum things lol, this story is kinda long so if I make anything confusing please ask.
I guess I'll start off by saying a few things about myself, I'm a 19 year old girl from Ontario,and I'm usually good with giving advice to my friends but I'm awful when it comes to me and guys but at the moment its just one guy.
I met him back in high school 4 years ago and we didn't really get along when we first met probly cuz we were from different crowds, I was apart of the mellow easy going groupe of people and he was apart of this tough guy-smoking-do stupid stuff- kinda group lol. But once we got to know each other he was really a cool guy. When the school year was about to end he told me him and his family were moving out of the province, it didn't really bother me because I didn't know him for a long time but we kept in touch over msn.
I always thought it was a good thing that he moved cuz where I live, its an ok place but its easy for people to get into the wrong crowds and he was apart of that, so when he moved there was this change in him, he was happy and somewhere along the line I started to like him...a lot... So for a whole year I kept it from him and one summer I think before our last year of high school he came to visit, we got to hang out with a couple people and the way he was acting around me..I couldn't tell if he liked me or not so I kept it to myself. Later on that year I couldn't keep it to myself any longer so I told him and right when I was expecting rejection he told me he liked me back :o). After that we were still friends things started happening so we hardly talked and when we did I found out he was moving back here,I was pretty nervous to see him because I didn't know what to expect but in the end it was alright, we still liked each other but he was leaving for college so we didn't know if we should go long distance...
Last October we started going out, he was a good boyfriend, when he visited his family for christmas we spent a lot of time together..then his sister got sick so his dad moved them to a place close to toronto. Before they moved again I asked him if he wanted to continue the relationship and he said whatever I wanted to do was alright with him..about a month later he broke up with me because of the distance and our school work, I got pretty pissed about it.
Now where still friends,every now and then he says a few things to get me mad I guess there more like assumptions about how I when I go to the bar for my 19th birthday and some stupid stuff about guys--I don't do anything with them, for a strange reason I'm still faithful to him and we're not even dating anymore-- When I did go to the bar with my friends I got drunk and called him lol(he does that to me too) and I asked if he still liked me (yes), what might happen to us (has no idea lol). He was suppose to be visiting here next week but he cancelled last minute cuz of some school things and I can understand cuz hes in aviation and its a hard course but Im disappointed. Everytime something like that happens I always set myself up for a disappointment is he leaving me hanging? I want to talk to him about this but I don't want to fight and make a big deal about this. So thats why I'm on here, I just need a bit of advice to see where I can go from here.
Sorry about the long entry, thanks for reading.
I guess I'll start off by saying a few things about myself, I'm a 19 year old girl from Ontario,and I'm usually good with giving advice to my friends but I'm awful when it comes to me and guys but at the moment its just one guy.
I met him back in high school 4 years ago and we didn't really get along when we first met probly cuz we were from different crowds, I was apart of the mellow easy going groupe of people and he was apart of this tough guy-smoking-do stupid stuff- kinda group lol. But once we got to know each other he was really a cool guy. When the school year was about to end he told me him and his family were moving out of the province, it didn't really bother me because I didn't know him for a long time but we kept in touch over msn.
I always thought it was a good thing that he moved cuz where I live, its an ok place but its easy for people to get into the wrong crowds and he was apart of that, so when he moved there was this change in him, he was happy and somewhere along the line I started to like him...a lot... So for a whole year I kept it from him and one summer I think before our last year of high school he came to visit, we got to hang out with a couple people and the way he was acting around me..I couldn't tell if he liked me or not so I kept it to myself. Later on that year I couldn't keep it to myself any longer so I told him and right when I was expecting rejection he told me he liked me back :o). After that we were still friends things started happening so we hardly talked and when we did I found out he was moving back here,I was pretty nervous to see him because I didn't know what to expect but in the end it was alright, we still liked each other but he was leaving for college so we didn't know if we should go long distance...
Last October we started going out, he was a good boyfriend, when he visited his family for christmas we spent a lot of time together..then his sister got sick so his dad moved them to a place close to toronto. Before they moved again I asked him if he wanted to continue the relationship and he said whatever I wanted to do was alright with him..about a month later he broke up with me because of the distance and our school work, I got pretty pissed about it.
Now where still friends,every now and then he says a few things to get me mad I guess there more like assumptions about how I when I go to the bar for my 19th birthday and some stupid stuff about guys--I don't do anything with them, for a strange reason I'm still faithful to him and we're not even dating anymore-- When I did go to the bar with my friends I got drunk and called him lol(he does that to me too) and I asked if he still liked me (yes), what might happen to us (has no idea lol). He was suppose to be visiting here next week but he cancelled last minute cuz of some school things and I can understand cuz hes in aviation and its a hard course but Im disappointed. Everytime something like that happens I always set myself up for a disappointment is he leaving me hanging? I want to talk to him about this but I don't want to fight and make a big deal about this. So thats why I'm on here, I just need a bit of advice to see where I can go from here.
Sorry about the long entry, thanks for reading.

It sounds to me like he is putting you on the defensive and manipulating you and you are letting it happen. Is he dating? You agreed to break up so see other people and don't worry about proving anything to him. This is why becoming friends after a breakup is so hard.