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| Fri, 07-16-2004 - 1:34pm |
i know that if you read my first entry you will probably roll your eyes at me and have some things to say, but here goes.
even tho i have been terribly hurt by this, it hit me today like a ton of bricks that i am as guilty as he. about 1 to 2 years ago i did some flirting online even tho we had promised not to...i stopped right away and prayed about it and came to the place where i was able to forgive myself and i havent done any of it since. now i know this is where you are rolling your eyes and thats ok...i didnt tell hubby about the incident and as you know from my other entry, i'm having a lot of trouble dealing with what he did and forgiving him....by the way...he did say he is going to stop all chat and gamerooms (this was his idea) and he is going to stop all contact with these ladies he has been chatting with. but...am i a hypocrite? do i have the right to be hurt? and mostly, should i confess to him or leave it in the past?

I responded to your other post so I am familiar with it. Okay so you were flirting on-line 1-2 years ago... that's in the past and you stopped. As for feeling guilty or don't think you have the right to be hurt..., well that is nonsense. You have a right to any of your feelings. Your question, should you confess and tell him what you did... My opinion only.... I would let sleeping dogs lie. He already said he wouldn't do it again and telling him you did it too might make matters worse. I realize secrets in a marriage are not good but you know that nothing good will come out of telling him at this point... after all it was 2 years ago. Drop it, stop the chat and game rooms and move on. Good luck in whatever you decide to do. P.S. Not once did I roll my eyes or think of doing it. :-) Take care
thanks so much for your reply and for not rolling your eyes... ;)
i have been giving it some thought since i posted this entry and i agree with you...let sleeping dogs lie. i guess that sometimes it takes making the same mistake more than once to really learn from it....i learned from mine and he has learned from his. we are actually hoping that some good will come from this...that he and i wont take each other and our relationship for granted. relationships are a very fragile thing that must be taken good care of. i know in time my heart won't ache and this will be away from my thoughts...and with that, i will be able to forgive him and trust him again...shoot, if i had to forgive myself and trust myself again, he deserves that also.
thanks again!