Newlyweds in trouble! Husband is lying
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Newlyweds in trouble! Husband is lying
| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 1:14pm |
OK so this is the story: 3 months ago I got married (we we're together for 3 years) and he promised that he would stop smoking for me the day of our wedding. (I know I was a fool!). I had a very hard time accepting his smoking. I lost my father due to cancer years ago and I have told him how much it hurts me when he smokes, I'm afraid I'll end up suffering with the disease all over again, and I honestly can't handle that. Recently I found out that he’s been smoking behind my back and lying to me all this time saying that he had quit. He used to go out once a week with his guy friends and now he wants to be out more often 3, 4 times a week and I suspect that the reason is to get out and smoke because is craving it.
I feel betrayed, extremely upset and most of all I feel hurt. I believe it’s very inconsiderate of him since my father had cancer in the past and he knows how much it hurts me. We have not spoken in 3 days and I have no idea what to do.
He's has lied to me about smoking a couple of times but I always manage to find the truth. I don't believe his promises anymore and he'll probably lie again and do behind my back. What should I do? Will I be able to trust him again? I don't want to have kids and raise them in a smoking environment. I need help! Also I feel very upset with him going out 3, 4 times a week with his friends, none of his married friends go, just the single ones. They play cards, drink beer, play golf, go fishing. How often is ok for him to be out with friends? I’m feeling very lonely but I don’t think is right for me to say NO you’re not allowed to go out! What should I do?
I feel betrayed, extremely upset and most of all I feel hurt. I believe it’s very inconsiderate of him since my father had cancer in the past and he knows how much it hurts me. We have not spoken in 3 days and I have no idea what to do.
He's has lied to me about smoking a couple of times but I always manage to find the truth. I don't believe his promises anymore and he'll probably lie again and do behind my back. What should I do? Will I be able to trust him again? I don't want to have kids and raise them in a smoking environment. I need help! Also I feel very upset with him going out 3, 4 times a week with his friends, none of his married friends go, just the single ones. They play cards, drink beer, play golf, go fishing. How often is ok for him to be out with friends? I’m feeling very lonely but I don’t think is right for me to say NO you’re not allowed to go out! What should I do?
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| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 5:36pm |
I'm sure you are hurt because of what happened to your father, but be thankful he doesn't abuse you, isn't cheating on you, etc. Smoking is an addiction, and I'm sure he'll quit when and if he's ready. Has he gone to see a doctor or made any attempt to quit?
