apt. keys

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Registered: 07-20-2004
apt. keys
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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 5:33pm
I was living with a guy friend and my boyfriend of 6 months told me that if i continued living with him we couln't be together because he couln't trust me. I moved in to my own place and he asked for a set of keys and i made copies for him but he wont take them. Then jokes about me not letting him have them because i'm afraid he will pop up and catch me with another guy. Whats his deal?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: andace81
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 7:09pm
I think your BF is playing games. It sounds to me like he has some weird trust issues and some insecurity so rather than just dealing with those issues, he tries to put it off on you.
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In reply to: andace81
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 2:30pm
you may be right, he always makes wierd comments like that, making assumptions that i am doing something behind his back. I've never been with someone that has trust issues like that, what do I do?
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In reply to: andace81
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 2:50pm
Unless you have got some REALLY compelling reason to stay with the guy, I would just move on. I wouldn't want to deal with a man who didn't trust me and played games.
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In reply to: andace81
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 3:37pm
He was married before and it didn't work out. Maybe thats it? I know that he loves me but i think on some level he is afraid to believe i want only him. Last week he asked me if I could see myself being with one person for the rest of my life. I just wish i could get inside his head. Have you ever dealt with a divorced man?
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In reply to: andace81
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 5:43pm
No - I've never dealt with a divorced man in a romantic situation. I do know that if the man is still carrying around baggage from a previous marriage, then he needs to deal with that baggage before he can develop a healthy relationship with anyone else. Otherwise it will just contaminate all his future relationships.