I'm loosing my fiance...help
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I'm loosing my fiance...help
| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 10:07pm |
I just got off the phone with my fiance tonight after class, and we talked, really talked. I asked him about his day, as usual, and he said he had a terrible day, of course. His work isn't doing good right now. I told him that I was worried about him being so unhappy everyday and I said that I heard a statistic that was really interesting that I thought he might like to hear. I told him that life is 10% situations and 90% how you look at it. Then, he said that it was mostly because us and his work that he is so unhappy. He said that he felt like he didn't know me anymore. He said that he felt uncomfortable with me because he didn't know what to say to me anymore. He said that he didn't know how to have fun with me anymore. He said that things had to change because he was tired of being so unhappy or else...( I could fill in the or else part on my own). I don't want him to be so unhappy, but he has this pessimistic attitude about us. It is like he tells himself that he can't have fun with me before we go out which starts out the night bad or down. I don't know what to say or do anymore. I feel like I'm walking on pins and needles. How do I put the excitement back in the relationship? How do we re-get to know each other after being so comfortable with each other?

Listen it's obvious that he maybe hasn't been having time to spend with you. And when being engaged it's best to be spend each and every minute with that person reasons why is:
-Having second thoughts.
-Bored & suspect thats how the marriage will be.
-Confusion thinking you are TOO busy for him.
-Feeling lonely and stresssed after work.
If he feels stessed after work maybe go to surprise him t his house with a gift like a box of chocolate and an offering of a candlelight night/dinner. And while doing this candlelight/dinner talk your problems out but make sure you have soft music to calm his nerves and stress music is the number 1 source of relieving stress or massages but one thing if you don't know how to massage don't bother because sometimes that makes more pain and tense on him.
Well if I come up with anymore ideas of what to tell you I'll try to get it through you I wish you the best of luck and remember the best way to keep things interesting is mostly keep a positive mind tell him that and try to ease him down.
I agree with whatever advice was given to you earlier..But before you set about altering things , you need to talk to him about whatever it is that is bothering him about your relationship...Have this talk over a relaxing candlelight dinner..Ask him why did he say all the things he did??maybe it is just too much work that is weighin him down and spilling over to other areas of his life as well...Have the talk with him and then take it from there...Wish you all the best....