Need advice

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Need advice
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 10:43am
My significant other and I don't fight much, but when we do, he'll storm out the door not locking it. I live in the city in a carriage house, and just get scared when he doesn't lock it. I've told him this bothers me, and even though we are in an argument please lock the door. He doesn't. Any advice on how to cure him of this dangerous habit. He will lock the door otherwise, it's only when we argue. Thanks
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: gr1243
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:36am
Why are you unable to lock it? Are you there when he storms out?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: gr1243
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 3:07pm

I think you are making too big a deal about this. Simply lock the door yourself. My husband locks the door everyday when he goes to work before me, but I still check to make sure it is locked and tight.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gr1243
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 3:31pm

This is his way of putting you in danger, not giving you what you want. He does it when he's angry. It's childish and also, as you say, an unwise thing to do. You have a couple of choices here - firstly, lock the door yourself. Or, don't argue. If everything else is alright in your relationship, it's not such a big deal. If this is a symptom of something larger, then face it and work it out. But, from what you right, I just don't know.


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