what can I do

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2007
what can I do
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 5:56pm

I was married to my husband for 20 years I divorced him about 7 years ago. We are back together, have been for the past 2 years. He has a ED problem, and also like alot of pono. I have tried to help him to cut this out. He does not wan t to have sex with me. He has also told me that he will have a relationship with me when I get a job. I think that is so wrong, its like saying to a woman, I will marry you if you lose 50 pounds.

I just don't know what to do

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: pie0072007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 7:35pm

Welcome back to the board pie0072007,


Ah, he won't have sex with you until you get a job? Sounds like an excuse to me so he can continue with the porn and he doesn't have to deal with the ED.


Here's your previous post:


Am I dum or Stupid?


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: pie0072007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 12:20pm

What are you getting from this relationship? Have you worked out the issues that caused you to get divorced?


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: pie0072007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 8:11pm

Why don't you have a job?

I ask this not because I think you should appease him so he'll have sex with you, but because it doesn't sound like a good idea to be married to this man without a fall-back plan.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2007
In reply to: pie0072007
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 9:33am

I don't have a job, because I have had two neck surgery's, the first one was in 2005 I had a artifical disk put into c-5 c-6, and it started to wrap around my spine, so in oct of 06 had it taken out and had a fusion. So I know have some problems from that, which I am working on with the doctors.

And he does not want to get married, but wants me with him for the rest of our lives, I don;t think that will happen.

I need someone to hug me once in awhile..

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2007
In reply to: pie0072007
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 9:36am
Yes we have worked things out, but than again maybe I am kidding myself..